Micheal, I just want to say how thankful I am that you are standing up for all of us that have been abused. We all know what those young men are going through having to testify. How it brings everything to the surface, again. How well said "reliving what happened to them as these men testify" "You learn to put it in a compartment,...it comes out every once in awhile" thank you
I absolutely believe in mandatory castration for 1st time abusers. Pedophilia cannot be cured. Unlike homosexuality which CAN be cured and has been proven despite what the militant homosexuals would like you to believe.
This crime demands the death penalty more so than rape, murder or any other crime I can think of. It destroys far more lives than any other crime I can think of. Of course to really stop it you would also have to make sodomy highly illegal again. Gay men are far more likely to engage in this.
This is one evil nation.
GOD can not be happy with America.
Micheal Reagan's story should make us all think carefully. He very clearly linked his sexual orientation confusion to his child abuse. Yet, in California they are banning therapies to minors that have gender issues. I wonder if we should be thinking this through a little more? I have heard there can be a connection between homosexuality and child abuse. I know there are many who do not want to hear this, but it should be investigated more. For the children's sake.
Wow. Heartbreaking. People who do this are pure evil and should be executed instantly. Society and the court system don't take into account that its not only the child that was molested that gets hurt but the entire family for possibly generations. The parents are scarred for life. The siblings are too. The children of the child might be abused or physically and mentally abused which could be passed on for God knows how long. Its a pyramid. Hell follows them until someone is able to put a stop to it somehow. It doesn't just hurt the one. It hurts many.
I was never sexually abused but mentally and physically abused by my father. He was the bastard son of Satan. I wanted to kill him. I prayed everyday that he would die in a car accident. Its still a yoke around my neck. I'm doing my best to make sure I don't pass this anger and hatred down. My father has now been redeemed. I prayed for years that he would get saved. I got him to speak to my preacher and five minutes into their conversation he WAS saved. I have neverseen such a transformation. Miracle. I love him more than I ever thought possible.
Joe, I am SO glad your dad found salvation in the Lord. This is why while I HATE HATE HATE what these people do to kids and others, I can't find the same hate for the person who possibly can be saved. They deserve prison, and they hopefully all get it- but as for the rest, we know our Lord can change the most wicked and hardest of hearts, and that's what we must pray for. Thank you for sharing. God Bless you.
My heart weeps for Michael and for all of those boys in the Sandusky abuse and my fellow posters. One reoccurring theme in many of the post is how society doesn't want to hear about childhood abuse. Well, it appears that an entire college, Penn State, accepted this because the school highlighted it and made fun of this by creating a sundae named after this monster! This is beyond belief and I thinl it weighed heavy on the heart of the head coach who later died. It must be a tremendous burden to carry around all that guilt and just think what the victum must go through!
It saddens me that so many children have had to go through these abusive acts which tells me that the devil is always lurking and in unsuspecting places! Some don't believe in good and evil. Well I say that that is height of evil!
It seems that one reoccurring aspect is that the abuser does not want to be exposed. Parents absolutely have to protect their young by educating them about what is not appropriate touching as soon as they can understand, and let them know that if anyone touches them inappropriately then don't be afraid to tell a parent or someone right away because as Michael so heartfeltly describe what happens when you don't tell someone, it will literally eat you up inside. I say tell it early, right after an act, and tell it often, which is a way to expose these predators that are constantly on the prow looking for their next victum. A few months ago a number of child actors told stories of how casting directors or authorities in Hollywood would sexually molest them and they didn't tell anyone because they wanted a career in acting but what's shocking is that no one believed them. So this harkens back to Michael Reagan, the boys in the Sandusky trial, and others later in the thread who were afraid to tell about the abuse until later in life. We know that these predators look for vulnerable children so parents be more vigilant and educate your children to look out for these abusers.
Sounds like Reagan is looking for attention.....keep it to yourself whiner. Go have a good cry. What the f*** do I care about Michael Reagan and his "victimhood"?
Michael Reagan is doing just fine and so am I. Sadly I'm quite sure you are the one who needs a good cry. Maybe it's time for you to take a long look in the mirror and deal with whatever horrible thing has caused you so much pain. I clearly recognize the anger and denial (been there done that). Or you can continue to live in your hatefilled world. It's your CHOICE. I hope you take this in the caring spirit that it was meant.
You are a sick and pitiful individual. I pray you don't ever have to know someone close to you who experiences this.
Because it affects you in many ways, not just stories like this but you may know people who are very close to you have experienced these foul acts by someone they trusted. Who are dealing with the memories and the shame silently. Who need someone to be a friend, need some one to hear their story to give them some peace. You might know someone who is perpetrating these acts on a child right now and is starting the process all over again with other children.
You might hear his story and notice signs of abuse and stop it from happening to at least one child and then you wouldn't have to listen to their "whining" later on when they try to open up and bring awareness about it.
But you don't f-ing care.
(Also. your callousness on this issue is concerning, you really ought to find someone you can talk to about it).
Michael Reagan has proven over and over again he's one hell of a guy and this is no exception. This piece of crap Sandusky deserves to go to prison and be brutally raped, beaten and eventually shanked. Things have a way of coming around.
Of course, all the victims could all pool together and take an in-prison hit out on him, or maiming, whichever is preferred.
God bless him. That does take a lot of courage but it is imperative to not keep emotions bottled up. It's extremely damaging. It will turn a person inside out with anger, bitterness, resentment and all sorts of ugly consequences of behavior. Reagan turned this around and became a good person despite this which proves it can be done.
It's pretty pathetic when parents can't even trust to send their kids to camp, play sports etc. without worrying if the leader will molest or abuse their kids.
You may as well say Jerry Sandusky's life is over as he knows it. Those prisoners do not like child molesters and they will have a heyday w him.
I admire Reagan's honesty and courage in coming forward with such a painful story. I really hope by doing this, someone who has suffered the same kind of abuse will have the courage to do the same.
When you listen to this story, then go back and read today's post about what children are now being taught in school, it really, honestly makes me wonder what kind of sick society we have become-where abuse like what happened to Reagan (and is still happening) is so rampant, where organizations like NAMBLA are allowed to exist and where babies as young as five are taught the finer points of sexual behaviour.
There comes a point when all of the descriptive adjectives can't express my revulsion and disgust at people who perpetrate these abuses and the educational system for making sexuality such a huge part of their curriculum.
Parents need to be more aware and be willing to spend more time w their kids. Home school or Christian school.
Parents need to learn more about agape'.
There has been a number of cases where children were harmed because they were hidden away in homeschooling. There also is a preponderance of cases where a molester professes to be a strong Christian.
I agree with what AmericanborninCanada said. But theres more to the story as they say. I was aware of Michael's abuse, I haven't listened to this video. After 35 years in therapy I've heard enough horror stories to last a lifetime. What you might not realize is people don't want to know. If they ignore these horrors that means to them things like that don't happen. When I was baptized my intent was to share my story with the hope it might help someone. I began sharing a little in a couples bible study. I was treated either with disbelieve or like a leper. I wanted to help with vacation bible school but the application asked if you had ever been sexually abused. As an incest survivor it is assumed that I would be an abuser. This was in the early 90's, maybe things have changed. The question on the church application is always in the back of my mind and keeps me from interacting with children. I agree with you it's got to stop.To your point about some people turning into abusers, I know this to be true, but it is a CHOICE, in all my years in therapy I never met anyone who had become an abuser. I intentionally did not have children to insure another generation could not be affected by my father, that was my choice. There's not enough paper to explain how every aspect of your life is affected. So, even though I knew in my heart I had something to offer, society wasn't interested.
I appreciate your bravery and candor in coming forward with your experience, a.
You have much to offer society concerning this issue and the road you have gone down to recover from the nightmare.
We, as compassionate and righteous Americans, must talk about this issue and do all in our power to prevent it, and help those that have suffered as a result of abuse.
I'm sorry that happened to you. My experience was verbal and emotional abuse. Both of my parents had families involving incest and mental instability. I saw indications of it in the behavior of my Dad and two brothers.
Like you, I did not want to negatively impact a child's life so I didn't have any. I have been in counseling off and on for many years. At first to reconcile my own feelings and then later to try to understand people like my parents better.
God showed me through a 4 year old who is now almost 15, that I did not need to worry. This little girl moved in next door, she had great parents and they trusted me completely. Without any prompting from me, she became a regular visitor to my house when I adopted their dog. I quit smoking partly because of this little girl. I didn't want her to pick up the habit. She was very well behaved but if she said or did anything I thought was inappropriate, I firmly but gently corrected her. She became a daily visitor to my home for several years and it was such a rewarding and positive experience for us both. This was God allowing me to have a small but significant joy of interacting with a child. Of being needed and the chance to be a good role model and make a positive impact on a child. I will always feel so blessed for this.
The scars will always be there as Mr. Reagan and others can attest to. You just have to learn to live with it.
I believe that God can even take the scars away. Sometimes I believe that He allows them to remain for a purpose, or it is simply that we don't let Him. Many of us, including myself, have deep emotional scars, but God does not intend for us to remain crippled by them. Personally, I have been single for eight years, due to my scars. After learning what God requires to be in a relationship, I have determined that I would not be good enough for another person to be involved with me. That is ok, because the Lord fills the gaps. That is what He wants. As Paul the apostle said in 1 Corinthians 7 "it is better to not be married". God can more than make up for our inadequacies, and He will bless our obedience to His word. I count it as sin when I focus on the past, or let it effect my present. If I have truly forgiven, and have repented, there is no more to be gained from it. True forgiveness is very hard at times. I always remind myself that we will be forgiven as we forgave others.
I hope I didn't ramble too much.
I admire your ability to be so forthright about your life story. There are so many issues that are not known to us until later in our lives. Things that we could have done or said that would have changed things. I thought that if I spoke up, that my already broken family would have further been, broken, that I said nothing either. One of my greatest joys in life is my friends letting me enjoy their grandchildren at family events as I haven't had children of my own either. Just to hold them or carry them to the dinner table is so fulfilling, they will never know how I would have loved to participate in raising children too. Bless you Wodiej.
woodiej, I am so sorry that you went through such hell with your parents. You are a testament to the good that can come out of something so horrible, as you are a gentle and compassionate person.
I'm glad you have come to a place of forgiveness, that's the only way to really heal yourself. G-d bless you, w.
thank you and Connie both for your kind remarks. My mother has not changed and so I must make visits brief and infrequent. I love my parents both for the good things they taught me and diligently work to not let the bad stuff affect who I am today.
I am so sorry that happened to you, Wodie.
You are such a wonderful person. Your story
is such a loving and warm testament to you.
God bless you always. I clicked 'like' after your
comment. It felt a little strange. In this case it
means 'admire your bravery'.
I think of myself as man an a 1/2. Still your story but me in tears. May your GOD comfort and guide you all the days of your life. There is a caring God bigger than life, He'll always carry you.
Abigail, thanks for sharing. I can only imagine what you went through. I have a family member that went through the same type of abuse. When she became a christian, she had a hard time telling her father about G-d. Oh, she forgave him! She wrestled with God everyday about his soul! She prayed for him and then one day, she wrote him a letter, a few months before he died, telling him about how he ruined her life and that she forgave him. (She had to flee to a convent to get away from him. That was the only means to run away from him without being brought back home by the police.) Though she did not get the therapy she needed, she sought God and has steadfastly walked in faith since. Later on, her son was molested at an early age. She did not learn about it until he was a teenager and on his dying bed. A family member whom we trusted has stolen his innocence. This time she was ready to forgive... and forgive she did! She even told the perpetrator that for what he's done, he was now to be his "other" son in her heart and that she will never stop praying for him until he turns to the Lord. She still talks about God all the time! What an awesome lady!
Thank you so much for sharing abigail. God Bless you, and please keep trying to speak out. Even if one person listens, it will be worth it. God Bless. (((())))s
I just want to hug all the children that were hurt....... I know God will do that, but as a mother and a human being, I want to take all that pain & Hurt away. I can't imagine. I pray to God that I never do with my kids.
Lord help them heal, please....
Without the Spirit of God, there is little inhibition toward sin. God will remove His spirit during the tribulation, and all hell will break loose. The Spirit is called "the restrainer" as well.
I believe that He will. Jesus said that it would better for a man to tie a millstone to his neck and be thrown in the ocean than to harm one of these little children. Though it was in a spiritual context, I think that it would apply to those who would abuse the innocent little ones, and fail to repent. Their punishment will probably be much greater.
I pray that he Raptures us up before the evil proliferates.
I have never experienced abuse but have the deepest empathy for children or anyone that has had to endure it. We must pray for them all.
Wow, I never knew any of this about Michael Reagan's life. How terrible. Clearly, the harm done to him will never leave him. It is important that well-known people like this speak candidly about child sexual abuse and not hide it in the closet. The warning signs are usually there; other adults need to be able to read what those signs are and possibly interfere.
Sadly... the warning signs are RARELY there. You want to think that you can trust people... but its a fallen world... filled with people who are broken.
I've seen Deacons get away with molestation... trusted friends and neighbors too. I've seen a wife of a Youth Pastor sleep with a 16 year old boy and become pregnant. The Youth Pastor Husband and the church forgave her... but turned the 16 year old boy out.
Before we all toss the abusers into the lake of fire... please remember, Michael Reagan said 60% of the victims will go on to abuse others. Sadly... he admitted he is in that 60% by hiring prostitutes.
But Michael Reagan has been redeemed... others can be as well.
I don't agree that he became an abuser by hiring prostitutes who chose to engage in paid sex. It isn't the same at all, as an abused child is powerless and is groomed by a pedophile.
Yes... I agree, we all have offended others and in that way... abused their spirits. Our pridefulness does that.
Very few women CHOOSE prostitution... most are forced, usually economically and/or addictions.
My statement about Spiritual abuse is to understand that the union between a man and woman is not just sexual in nature, it is a Spiritual Union... it is much deeper than physical (Paul explains this in Ephesians).
Any sexual activity outside of the marital bounds between man and wife will produce an abuse of someone's spirit. (whether or not they want to admit it)
Spiritual abuse is quite common, and all of us are guilty of it. Where a prostitute chooses her profession, it is not forced abuse, just two people abusing themselves.
It's not abuse per abusing others, but he was abusing himself- by trying to prove himself to be still a man. Others may abuse women for the same reason. Bucket's point I believe is that these kids who are molested, many, many of them turn to sexual perversions whether prostitutes, rape of women, pornography or any kind of other kind of behavior which is abusive to themselves or/and others.
While it may not be pedophilia, its still sexual abuse, misogyny and if you know your bible at all... its Spiritual abuse too.