The moving poem of regret that a famous Italian playboy wrote for the son he had aborted…

An famous Italian actor and comedian named Andrea Roncato, who is now 80 years old, was once a playboy in his youth. But nowadays he looks back on his youth with regret – specifically the time when he had his child aborted.

He explained that it was the biggest mistake of his life and since then he’s become very pro-life, according to Aleteia:

I miss having a child. It was the mistake of my life. When I was very young, I had the chance to become a father, to have a child, but I had him aborted. Now, I’ve become very strongly against abortion. I even wrote a book for this child who was never born, titled I Would Have Liked You [‘T’avrei voluto’ in Italian].



In his book “I Would Have Liked You” he wrote a very moving poem to his aborted son and I wanted to share it with you. It’s translated from Italian:

I would have liked you to be small, so I could hug you.
I would have liked you to be big, so I could lean on you.
I would have liked you to be looking out the window in winter, watching the snow begin to fall.
I would have liked you to be lying under the covers during a storm, silent so you could hear the sound of the rainfall.
I would have liked you to be kind to dogs, so you could pet them, and affectionate with the elderly, so you could love them.
I would have liked you to be handsome, so I could brag about you, with big eyes, like your mother’s.
I would have liked to sing to you, to make you fall asleep, and continue the dream that woke you up.
I would have liked you to be shy, so I could see you blush, and stubborn, so I could argue with you.
I would have liked you to be at my side, so the two of us could walk in silence, trying to understand what the other was thinking inside and couldn’t manage to say.
I would have liked to teach you all the things I don’t know how to do.
I would have liked you to leave someday, so I could have the pleasure of seeing you come back home.
I would have liked you to experience your first love.
I would have liked you near me on the day I must leave this world.
I wish I had wanted you, that time when I didn’t want you …

I heard this yesterday morning on the Patrick Mardrid Show and I must tell you, he couldn’t read it without choking up.

So if you get dust in your eye while reading it, you aren’t the only one.

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53 thoughts on “The moving poem of regret that a famous Italian playboy wrote for the son he had aborted…

  1. I had an abortion in my 20s. I was young, I was stupid, and I had a one year old child. How could I have another one. It was 1975 and there were no crisis pregnancy clinics. My own parents would disown me again. I was barely making it with my one child. I would be a disgrace. So in secret I had an abortion. And there’s not a single solitary day over the past 44 years that I have not regretted it. Forty four years later the thought still makes me cry. Life goes on but there’s always this wound that will never heal. My heart hurts for all the moms and dads, all the grandparents, uncles, aunts, and siblings that have lost of piece of their family to abortion.

    1. Pro lifer God forgave you many years ago when he suggested to you the first of ten adopted Children.Now is the time to let go and get on with that wonderful family of yours What a wonderful God we have,sees one mistake and rewards you with 10 wonderful Children,It takes a mighty strong woman to accomplish what you and you husband have accomplished.Thanks for your story and continued success.

  2. That is powerful. I appreciate it for what it is and also appreciate that there is nothing that the abortion-lovers can communicate that reaches anywhere near these depths. The contrast could not be clearer. Life wins and life is worth preserving.

  3. A lovely poem, but bittersweet in its reminder that we humans always insist on learning the toughest lessons the hardest way possible.

  4. We will always regret our sins of the pass and they will never escape from our memory but God will forget them if you come to Him and ask for forgiveness. By repenting them with contrite heart God will wipe them off completely from your book of life as if you never committed them. Our Creator God is a loving God that loves those who loves Him through His only begotten Son Jesus Christ.

    1. God also loves those who reject Him, honoring their free will of rejection and consequence. That is why His tears are so heavy.

  5. The heartbreak…

    Our society convinces and pressures people at the worst point of decision in their life to view an abortion as a sterile “reset” button. And years later, when it is too late, the error comes back to haunt us all.

  6. Sad. I can’t help but wonder if I ever had a child who was aborted and I was never told.

  7. Dadgum dust! Sniff! That was heartbreakingly beautiful. A pox on those women who say men don’t suffer because of abortion.

  8. If California made a law that abortion clinics had to post that poem and hand it out on cards in the waiting room, I bet all the abortion clinics would close.

    Please pass me the kleenix.

  9. If California made a law that abortion clinics had to post that poem and hand it out on cards in the waiting room, I bet all the abortion clinics would close.

    Please pass me the kleenix.

  10. Please forgive me for posting a link to the odious Media Matters, but it’s the only place I could find a fantastic clip of Alveda King making a unique point about why it is wrong to place the decision to abort “on the woman.” I don’t believe I have ever heard it explained like this before, and she does it beautifully.

    Note that the whole reason Media Matters posted this was to make some snark about Tucker Carlson (King appeared on his show last night) in response to the Buttigieg town hall. But they curiously never even mentioned King in their article! Luckily, they didn’t cut her out of the clip!

    https://www.mediamatters.org/video/2019/05/20/tucker-carlson-pete-buttigieg-slippery-demagogue-who-wants-no-limits-whatsoever-abortion/223753

      1. @john-henry And those morons at Media Matters never even paid any attention to her. What racists! 😆

    1. In all my years of pro life work I had never heard it stated that way. And that is a big issue. It’s the issue I faced – me, myself, and I had to decide what was best for me and I made the wrong decision. As we know, the abortion clinics are not providing incentives and resources to keep the child and if society allows it up through the moment of birth, then a woman is thinking that it must be okay. Alveda King is a true blessing to the preborn and the moms who will take a minute to listen to her and decide to choose life.

      Thanks for sharing the clip. I watch Tucker Carlson every night but last night I missed because my hubby and three of my kids took me out for a belated birthday dinner.

      1. @prolifer Thank you for perspective. I was stunned when I heard her say this, I thought “Why have I never heard anyone say this before?” Just brilliant! But to hear that someone like you, active in the pro life community, say the same thing, is truly impressive.

        Happy Birthday!

  11. I had an abortion in my 20s. I was young, I was stupid, and I had a one year old child. How could I have another one. It was 1975 and there were no crisis pregnancy clinics. My own parents would disown me again. I was barely making it with my one child. I would be a disgrace. So in secret I had an abortion. And there’s not a single solitary day over the past 44 years that I have not regretted it. Forty four years later the thought still makes me cry. Life goes on but there’s always this wound that will never heal. My heart hurts for all the moms and dads, all the grandparents, uncles, aunts, and siblings that have lost of piece of their family to abortion.

    1. That had to be a difficult admission for you. Thank you for your honesty and bravery today.

      1. I have never told my husband nor my ten children (all adopted). I didn’t tell my parents, my in-laws, or my siblings. It’s a pain I have lived with for forty four years. It’s easier to admit to strangers although I don’t do it often. Fortunately my involvement in pro life activities led me to God and forgiveness. Otherwise I don’t think I would have made it to the ripe old age of 70. That’s why I stand up for the preborn and have spent the past thirty years supporting pro life causes including crisis pregnancy centers and maternity homes. At least some good has come out of my mistake – the biggest mistake of my whole life.

        1. @prolifer I wonder how many babies you have saved by sharing your story at crisis pregnancy centers and maternity homes. And how much peace you have given to those women who heard you and let their babies live. God bless you.

          1. That is very kind of you to say. And I believe it’s true. My most horrible mistake has been forgiven in heaven and used for good on earth.

        2. Don’t sell yourself short. A LOT of good came from your experience.

          I just finished a novel and one of the best quotes of that book is :

          “They say in our lives we’ll meet something like eighty thousand people. Most of them just in passing, sitting beside them on a bus, buying a latte from them, overtaking them too fast on the motorway. Others will become friends, lovers, family. Some will stay in our lives forever, and some will be swept away by the flow of life. But we touch all of these people in some way, tiny or huge, making more of a difference than any of us can imagine.”

          I hope you take some comfort from those words because you are still touching lives in a wonderful way.

    2. @prolifer God bless. I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t know what else to say. Thank you for sharing.

    3. Pro lifer God forgave you many years ago when he suggested to you the first of ten adopted Children.Now is the time to let go and get on with that wonderful family of yours What a wonderful God we have,sees one mistake and rewards you with 10 wonderful Children,It takes a mighty strong woman to accomplish what you and you husband have accomplished.Thanks for your story and continued success.

      1. Your comments are spot on! God does forgive the minute we confess and repent. But it’s the human being that has a hard time forgiving themselves, which I have done. But I will never forget. All my children are grown – we had a glorious time raising them – but there’s always been the nagging thought of the one that could have been. And that’s why it’s so important to let women know that even though in the moment it seems like a good option, long term it may end up being the worst decision of their life.

  12. So sad especially since he says “but I had him aborted. “.

    Sadder still are the Dads who wanted their children and were not given that oft screamed choice.

  13. Sad. I can’t help but wonder if I ever had a child who was aborted and I was never told.

  14. That is powerful. I appreciate it for what it is and also appreciate that there is nothing that the abortion-lovers can communicate that reaches anywhere near these depths. The contrast could not be clearer. Life wins and life is worth preserving.

  15. Dadgum dust! Sniff! That was heartbreakingly beautiful. A pox on those women who say men don’t suffer because of abortion.

  16. A lovely poem, but bittersweet in its reminder that we humans always insist on learning the toughest lessons the hardest way possible.

  17. Beautiful and sad. This is part of the problem. Many who took advantage of the “right to abort” in the 1970’s and 80’s, who have children and grandchildren, are unable to forgive themselves for murdering the baby they were carrying inside of them, just because it would have been financially or emotionally inconvenient to have and raise that baby. Today, we ALL know far more than back then, when it was thought by most that it was only a cluster of formless cells. We now know that babies have discernable eyes, ears, fingers, toes, beating heart and much more by the time a woman is in her third month. In those days, the every conniving eugenicist democrat progressives shoved Roe v. Wade through to legislation with the promise that abortion would be rare. But, as with everything else you give to evil, abortion today is used as one of several forms of birth control. Abortion is not like a pill or rubber or inserted device that prevents pregnancy. Abortion is nothing less than murder.

  18. This poem is both sad and beautiful. It would be great to post it a a pregnancy center where those contemplating abortion could read it. Many who have an abortion are young and don’t yet understand regret. May they never have to learn this particular lesson. It’s a difficult one for sure.

  19. We will always regret our sins of the pass and they will never escape from our memory but God will forget them if you come to Him and ask for forgiveness. By repenting them with contrite heart God will wipe them off completely from your book of life as if you never committed them. Our Creator God is a loving God that loves those who loves Him through His only begotten Son Jesus Christ.

    1. God also loves those who reject Him, honoring their free will of rejection and consequence. That is why His tears are so heavy.

  20. The heartbreak…

    Our society convinces and pressures people at the worst point of decision in their life to view an abortion as a sterile “reset” button. And years later, when it is too late, the error comes back to haunt us all.

  21. Beautiful and sad. This is part of the problem. Many who took advantage of the “right to abort” in the 1970’s and 80’s, who have children and grandchildren, are unable to forgive themselves for murdering the baby they were carrying inside of them, just because it would have been financially or emotionally inconvenient to have and raise that baby. Today, we ALL know far more than back then, when it was thought by most that it was only a cluster of formless cells. We now know that babies have discernable eyes, ears, fingers, toes, beating heart and much more by the time a woman is in her third month. In those days, the every conniving eugenicist democrat progressives shoved Roe v. Wade through to legislation with the promise that abortion would be rare. But, as with everything else you give to evil, abortion today is used as one of several forms of birth control. Abortion is not like a pill or rubber or inserted device that prevents pregnancy. Abortion is nothing less than murder.

  22. This poem is both sad and beautiful. It would be great to post it a a pregnancy center where those contemplating abortion could read it. Many who have an abortion are young and don’t yet understand regret. May they never have to learn this particular lesson. It’s a difficult one for sure.

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